Editing Adoption Aniki/Thread 3

==Thread 3==
'''!!0oHp5yn8MOY''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:31:31 No.34836879 ViewReplyOriginalReport
<small>Quoted By: >>34838065</small><br>
Hello again, sorry I didn't get back to you all yesterday as promised - but I didn't want to move. We had a long day and Kaitlyn was pretty worn out, she fell asleep on me while we were watching TV. I didn't want to wake her up so I could post.

I wont give you all the hour-by-hour - pretty sure you don't want to have to read all that so I'll just hit the highlights. We went to the mall, got her a whole new wardrobe - she said she had a lot of stuff at her old house (she started talking on the way to the mall - not much to begin with but I kept asking her questions and eventually she just started doing the same for me - nothing deep or meaningful really, but I was happy that she'd started talking) but I wasn't sure if we'd ever see that again and even if we did, the clothes she came in were pretty worn so it was probably time for new stuff anyway. I do need to find out how I'd go about getting some of her old stuff though, I'm sure there's things she wants. Anyway, she seemed kind of embarrassed to have me buying things for her - like she'd only pick out one or two things at a time - I'd have to keep telling her she could get more if she wanted. 

The underwear shopping was an interesting event, I'm going down the list of things she'd need - clothes, shoes, etc. etc... I finally get to underwear and she instantly turns red. I still don't know what the rules are with these kind of things so I just said "Alright... how about I just give you some money, you go pick out a dozen pairs or so and you can pay for them yourself and meet me back here." She agreed to that pretty quickly - first time she'd left my side I since I picked her up I think. (I'm kind of afraid to let her out of my sight so I just stayed by the entrance to the store and kept on eye on her.)

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:32:34 No.34836921 Report<br>
Oh shit yes.

'''!!0oHp5yn8MOY''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:33:31 No.34836937 Report <br>
Also went and had her pick out a bed and some furniture, I only had the one bed in my apartment and she's going to need a room. So we stop for our lunch, or dinner or whatever you want to call eating at 4:30 and then head back home. I got started on clearing out my second bedroom / storage room and Kaitlyn started trying on all her clothes. I just heard her running back and forth a lot - going from the bathroom where she was changing to my room to look in the mirror. When I asked her what she was doing she told me and then started coming to show me every time she tried on something new. The first time she came in she was kind of embarrassed, her face was all flushed (everything seems to embarrass her, I guess she's not really comfortable around me yet - can't blame her, it's only been a few days - I'm kind of on my guard around her too, don't mean to be, it's just a big change having someone around all the time - especially a 12 year old girl) - but by the time she finished she was enjoying herself, even twirling around in her skirts and such. Putting on a little fashion show I guess - didn't bother me any, it was the first time I'd seen her smile - and she picked out some really cute outfits.

So mid-evening, while I have the appartment half torn apart putting away all the stuff that was in her new room and getting it cleaned out, the doorbell rings. And of course, impeccable timing - it's social services. Part of the agreement when I'd taken custody of Kaitlyn was that social services could drop by at will to check up on her. The guy tells me who he is, asks to come in. - Obviously it was kind of hard for him to miss the mess I'd made, but as soon as I explained what I was doing he let out what seemed to be a sigh of relief and went on.
'''!!0oHp5yn8MOY''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:33:31 No.34836955 Report <br>
It wasn't a long visit really, he asked me a few questions - how was she settling in, did I need anything from social services, any questions, etc. etc. - Then he asked to speak to Kaitlyn privately. - She didn't seem overly thrilled with the idea but I told her I'd be right outside and she agreed. About five minutes later they both come out, the social services guy tells me to calm down (I was nervous, apparently it showed) - everything looks good, said I seemed to be doing a decent job of things. Then he told me he'd be back next week, probably with some more paperwork if things had processed by then - and he was gone.

So we continued on with our day, Kaitlyn helping me clean out the room - called out for Chinese food and settled in for the evening. And that brings us back around to me not wanting to get up to post so I wouldn't wake up Kaitlyn, who had fallen asleep leaning against me.

'''!!0oHp5yn8MOY''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:34:31 No.34836984 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837122 >>34837219 >>34837222 >>34837933 >>34838131</small><br>
And I said I wasn't going to give you an hour-by-hour... Sorry, but she's really cute. I think I may be falling in love with her. (No not like that, you know perfectly well what I mean.) I know it's kind of soon to say something like that, I barely even know her... I don't know if it's just an over-protective brother type thing or what, but I can't think of anything I wouldn't do to make her smile. I know I'm still a day behind here but she's passed out and I'm about to be - Saw you all had a lot of questions yesterday that I didn't get a chance to get to, so I'll answer what I can and then I'm going to hit the sack. Unless you all want a day-by-day I'll turn this into a weekly thing though, I know /a/s not my blog - but it seems like you all enjoy hearing about Kaitlyn. I really do appreciate all the advice and the interest you've all taken.

Oh, one question for you all. What kind of things would one buy a 12 year old girl? I can't say I ever really understood kids or women very well... All I could think of was video games along the lines of pokemon and such - any other ideas? She still wont just tell me if there's something she wants, not sure if she's just shy or embarrassed or what - but it looks like for now it's going to be mostly guess work on my part.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:35:31 No.34837019 Report <br>
FUCK YEAR /a/'S ADOPTED LOLI

'''TK''' !!r4vjuxwCm5A Sat 15 May 2010 01:35:31 No.34837021 Report <br>
So you finally pre-typed this shit? About time you learned how to tl;dr.

'''anon2007''' !StaIqxr34U Sat 15 May 2010 01:35:34 No.34837027  Report<br>
hi newfriend!

 

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:35:31 No.34837054 Report <br>
Oh my god I came on to /a/ just to find this thread, and look its right here in my face

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:36:31 No.34837076 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837494</small><br>
previous posts
http://bluwiki.com/go/Adoption_Aniki

 

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:37:31 No.34837109 Report <br>
I don't know how to feel about this.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:37:31 No.34837122 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837197 >>34838065</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34836984 }}

buy her card captor sakura DVDs

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:40:31 No.34837179 Report <br>
You're my hero.

I would never have the patience to adopt a child. But she's 12 and seems like a very nice kid.

 
'''friskybadger''' !wO720e/qQo Sat 15 May 2010 01:40:31 No.34837197 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837122 }}

that was so funny i don't even have a reaction face for it

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:40:31 No.34837203 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837247 >>34837278 >>34837305</small><br>
What is this shit, a poor rehash of Nurse-kun?

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:40:31 No.34837205 Report <br>
Glad to hear that things seem to be going well.

'''sidekick''' !!CrHUako0qX8 Sat 15 May 2010 01:41:31 No.34837217 Report <br>
/a/niki, you are fucking awesome.

i really, really can't stress that enough.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:41:31 No.34837219 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837331 >>34837545 >>34837622</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34836984 }}

ask nicely what she would like as a welcome home gift (besides new clothes/bed/furniture. those things are a given that every child deserves) and it could be something simple: like a movie she really wants to go see/have or it could be a big step like a pet dog or cat.

but i don't think it really matters, as long as you've given her a gift of "home" i think she'll be content : )

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:41:31 No.34837222 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837545</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34836984 }}
You should ask her what she's interested in, rather than offer to buy her things. Get to know her as more than just "this adorable shy girl I suddenly am responsible for"

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:41:31 No.34837240 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837288</small><br>
buy her a GITAH

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:42:31 No.34837247 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837313</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837203 }}

The hell? It's more similar to blindmute loli than anything, except without the soap opera drama.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:43:31 No.34837276 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>but by the time she finished she was enjoying herself, even twirling around in her skirts and such. Putting on a little fashion show I guess }}
yeah sure, this sounds totally likely

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:43:31 No.34837278 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837313</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837203 }}
I miss nurse-kun and ampu-tan updates ;_;

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:43:31 No.34837288 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837321</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837240 }}

and you can buy yourself a bass, and you can have jam sessions.

i think i just SUGOI'd thinking about it

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:43:31 No.34837295 Report <br>
ummm...
Turn her into a nerd goddess?
well, that's probably just me looking out for the next generation of men

Try asking her what she likes, 12 year old's tastes vary I imagine.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:43:31 No.34837305 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837203 }}
dont like it, kindly gtfo.

Op: Good going.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:44:31 No.34837310 Report <br>
Teach her how to fight

'''Big Johnny''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:44:31 No.34837313 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837278 }}
{{Greentext|>>34837247 }}
Reminds me of Uncle-anon.

Except with much less pedophilia.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:44:31 No.34837321 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837288 }}
no no the idea is that she makes friends around the same age that play and they make a band

then you can bake them delicious cake and serve them tea

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:44:31 No.34837331 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837219 }}

This. 

If ou get her something of your own will after finding out more about what she likes/would want, it will more likely have more meaning thatn just some random gift wether or not she told you she wanted it.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:45:31 No.34837342 Report <br>
fake or not, this is so much win!

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:45:31 No.34837347 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837763</small><br>
When is she going to go back to school?

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:45:31 No.34837358 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837366</small><br>
Can someone give me a little backstory?

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:46:31 No.34837362 Report <br>
teach her not to be a cumdumpster

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:46:31 No.34837366 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837358 }}

Read the thread.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:47:31 No.34837406 Report <br>
these threads are awesome.
you're doing good deeds, aniki.

'''friskybadger''' !wO720e/qQo Sat 15 May 2010 01:48:31 No.34837418 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837469</small><br>
Are you there OP?

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:48:31 No.34837421 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837481 >>34838295,14</small><br>
What about her schooling? Is she transferring to a nearby school or what? Details please. Also, about what to buy her: Fuck Card Captor Sakura DVDs, buy her new school supplies. You don't want her to be retarded like anon

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:49:31 No.34837435 Report <br>
Sup faggots I just adopted my own Japanese loli and she calls me Oniichan. SHIT WAS SO CASH. Then I did a triple back flip into my Masaratti and did a massive burnout.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:49:31 No.34837456 Report <br>
BACKSTORY:

http://bluwiki.com/go/Adoption_Aniki

now read up and let OP continue with his story and the delicious loli

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:49:31 No.34837461 Report <br>
Ugh, such a tearful story. Clueless here about kids in general so I can't really give you advice, but man, I am cheering you on. Hope everything works out for you and your new family.

'''friskybadger''' !wO720e/qQo Sat 15 May 2010 01:50:31 No.34837469 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837763</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837418 }}
Forgot to add this.

You should probably ask her what movies, music etc. things she likes and take her to see a concert or a movie. Not only would it be a (good-ish) gift, you would also be able to bond with her in the process.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:50:31 No.34837478 Report <br>
This should be made into a doujin.
Treat her well. 
Be a bro, Aniki.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:50:31 No.34837481 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837421 }}
Yeah, fuck Card Captor Sakura DVD's.

Buy Card Captor Sakura BLURAY'S.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:50:31 No.34837494 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837076 }}
My God, this is even more touching then Oral hygene bro

 

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:51:31 No.34837507 Report <br>
i remember you OP! i think pokemon would be fine or since you're always online u can have her raise a neopet. goodluck btw. :)

'''!!0oHp5yn8MOY''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:51:31 No.34837545 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837863 >>34838151</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837219 }}
I like the pet idea a lot actually. I'll have to ask her if that's something she'd like.

She does seem pretty content just to be involved in whatever I'm doing at the moment - but I hardly expect that to last and even if it did I'd still like her to be able to do/have things SHE was interested in.

{{Greentext|>>34837222 }}
She did talk about ice skating a little, apparently her friend had a birthday party at an ice rink and she really enjoyed it - had even taken lessons for a little while. I'm gonna take her to a rink near me in the next day or two and maybe sign her up for lessons again if she's interested. Give her a chance to skate more and hopefully hang out with some people her own age. (I'm trying to think of things she'd enjoy doing that would get her out and around people her own age a little - I don't think she'd be as happy living like I do... or did, we'll see.)

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:52:31 No.34837573 Report <br>
Buy her shit she needs, but don't go all out trying to win her over by buying her tons of shit. You're her older brother/father figure, not her sugar daddy. 

but yeah, you're doing a fairly good thing here anon (assuming you aren't trollin)

'''Meth''' !!yKNKxhr7QFT Sat 15 May 2010 01:53:31 No.34837594 Report <br>
I'm so happy for you dude, I must be honest with you and say that I'm pretty envious. Keep up the good work man. Follow your instincts with good intention.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:54:31 No.34837622 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837219 }}
Something along the lines of this, though another way to put it is you owe her for 12 missed birthdays for which you gave her nothing.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:56:31 No.34837672 Report <br>
Just get her a TV or something. You don't want to be pushy and weird.

It makes it look like you're glad for her mother's death.
Bitches & !Whores/8sg Sat 15 May 2010 01:56:31 No.34837679 Report <br>
OP sounds like a mature and normal member of society


i feel bad just reading the thread

 

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:56:31 No.34837680 Report <br>
/a/doption /a/niki!

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:56:31 No.34837687 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837730 >>34837770 >>34837782</small><br>
Buy a baseball bat. As you are now the 'father' of this girl there will eventually come a time when you will need to use it. You'll know when.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:57:31 No.34837725 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837755</small><br>
Buy her a purple dildo.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:58:31 No.34837730 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837756</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837687 }}

This, OP. Get her into sports! Who says baseball is only for boys?

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:58:31 No.34837755 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837725 }}
dude at least be a little more subtle and buy her the vibrating harry potter broomstick

 

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:58:31 No.34837756 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837730 }}

'''!!0oHp5yn8MOY''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:59:31 No.34837763 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837911</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837347 }}
According to social services she has three options.<br>
1. She can return to school next week and try to make up the time she's lost.<br>
2. She can wait until summer school and make up what work she needs to then.<br>
3. She can redo the 7th grade next year.<br>

I'll give her all three options, but I'll nudge her towards one or two. Years almost over anyway so it shouldn't be that much work, and I'd like her to be around people her own age - get back into a normal rhythm, etc. etc.

{{Greentext|>>34837469 }}
Maybe I need to introduce her to my netflix account - that'd at least give me an idea of what kind of movies she likes.

 

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 01:59:31 No.34837770 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837687 }}
'sup

'''sidekick''' !!CrHUako0qX8 Sat 15 May 2010 01:59:31 No.34837782 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837809 >>34837843</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837687 }}
Killing anything male that gets within twenty feet of her isn't really a good way to convince social services he's a good father figure.

'''Big Johnny''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:00:31 No.34837809 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837782 }}
{{Greentext|>Killing anything male that gets within twenty feet of her isn't really a good way to convince social services he's a good father figure. }}

BITCHES AND WHORES.

'''A_CAT_IS_FINE_TOO!''' !!rX4XoCgyivh Sat 15 May 2010 02:00:31 No.34837819 Report <br>
Setting the "what to buy" stuff aside...

You will need to start "normalizing" her life and returning everything to normal. She is going through some difficult stuff and maintaining a steady rhythm will help the transition between old life and new.

Also, if you have IRL friends, those you can talk to about "heavy" stuff (and especially if they have children of their own), keep them updated on what is going on with your new life; they can provide you support better than /a/ can. They will also be able to provide immediate information and can help you deal with the incoming emotional trauma you both are/will be going through...

...and (later on) puberty.

The most important thing right now: get her (and you) back into a normal rhythm. This doesn't mean "pretend nothing happened", rather, you both need to move beyond events that you no longer have control over and start focusing on events you CAN control.

I would ask her if there is anything she would like... get her something you both can enjoy together The more time you can spend together, the better... as you are now part of her emotion-system and she will be looking to you for guidance on how to react emotionally to things now.

Now go be the bro we all know you can be!

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:01:31 No.34837841 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837908 >>34838261</small><br>
Get her an iPhone or something similar and give it to her with your name and number in the contacts. Now she'll be able to contact you whenever she needs to, have something to 'show-off' a little in front of friends and can add their numbers too, she can play some games, listen to some music and browse the internet.

A little bit of freedom whilst making yourself accessible to her whenever she needs you wrapped up in the excuse as a shiny new toy.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:01:31 No.34837843 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837782 }}
'Killing' is a strong word. I prefer to refer to it as 'impressing upon them the potential consequences should they so much think about harming her, and may god have mercy on their souls if they make her cry'.

'''A_CAT_IS_FINE_TOO!''' !!rX4XoCgyivh Sat 15 May 2010 02:02:32 No.34837863 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837945 >>34837978 >>34838261</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837545 }}
{{Greentext|>>"I like the pet idea a lot actually." }}

No.

You need time to work on the emotions of the events that just happened and the emotional relationship between the two of you.

'''Kyuu-chan''' !4chansf0OQ Sat 15 May 2010 02:02:32 No.34837885 Report <br>
You're missing a day, OP. What happened to May 14th?

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:03:32 No.34837908 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837932 >>34838046</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837841 }}
Oh god please do not do this. 12 year olds with cell phones makes me cringe every goddamn time.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:03:32 No.34837911 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837763 }}
I'm not sure when the school year ends for the school district you are in, but it is so close to finals and she is under such stress that even if she does end up going for them, she will probably do pretty poorly and have to take summer school anyway.

Repeating the grade is probably the worst idea, given her situation I'm sure the school system would take measures to let her stay in her grade, but I personally think that pushing her to go back to school and finals after such an event might cause some mental damage.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:04:32 No.34837929 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34837956 >>34838195 >>34838274</small><br>
Step one: Do not take /a/'s advice on how to rise a child.

Seriously.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:04:32 No.34837932 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34838046 >>34838199</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837908 }}
yeah it's annoying as fuck but it makes girls happy

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:04:32 No.34837933 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34836984 }}
I, for one would adore a day-by-day.
It would be awe-inspiring in many, many ways.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:04:32 No.34837944 Report <br>
Introduce her to anime

Share hobbies

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:04:32 No.34837945 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837863 }}
yeah I'm going to second this. a pet sounds like a bit much right now. maybe next year....

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:05:32 No.34837956 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837929 }}
yeah

go ask /v/


or even better /b/

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:05:32 No.34837978 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837863 }}
I gotta agree, pet seems like a bit too much change. I realize you probably thing this would be a good way to occupy her time and take her mind off things, but in the end it will just be a scapegoat and a hassle.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:06:32 No.34838001 Report <br>
How's everything going to work once you're working full-time again?

 
'''Kyuu-chan''' !4chansf0OQ Sat 15 May 2010 02:07:32 No.34838020 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34838220</small><br>
I have a question.<br>
OP clearly described the events of May 11 and May 12. <br>
Timeline: <br>
May 11, he gets call from social services.<br>
May 12, adoption is made official, she moves in. <br>
May 13, shopping and this thread's events.<br>
May 14, ??? <br>
Am I missing something here?<br>

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:07:32 No.34838021 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34838080 >>34838093</small><br>
Pet is a bad idea. You're adding more stress to your already sudden lifestyle change. I'd give it a year at least before getting a puppy or a kitten and having to deal with them shitting on your carpet.

I agree with the anon who posted about the iphone or similar cell phone.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:07:32 No.34838046 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837908 }}
{{Greentext|>>34837932 }}
Oh god please don't turn her into that 12 year old with an iPhone. If you get her a cell phone just get one of the free ones. Don't try and make her like you by spending money on her. Just work on being a good dad.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:08:32 No.34838065 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34836879 }}
{{Greentext|Get her some music from different eras. Justin Bieber and Hannah Montana are very popular with younger kids (I work with kids, thats all we listen to), also get her some 60's music she'll know. I know that if I hear music that I know or have heard somewhere before, I am much more comfortable. Also, get her some anime, of course, something like Cardcaptor Sakura sounds awesome, >>34837122 , and then find a way for her to talk. Communication is what you should worry about after she is fully settled in. It will be very hard to talk to her, she might not like it right now, but she will feel much better talking to someone she lives with than a psychiatrist later in life, and it will be more cost-effective. Find out if the child services has counseling, especially grief and/or just regular counseling, which will help her open up, and the child services here where I live offer it for free or little to no money. Just make sure she feels comfortable. You'll know when she can be in a room by herself. Watch her though, just not like a hawk. Her mom just died, and she might be very depressed. God forbid, she might try to kill herself. I know it sounds off-landish, but it is very true, just watch her mannerisms. there are clues you can look up online, or wherever you wish, and they are pretty much universal. Good Luck, /a/dopter, I couldnt do it. You're a good person }}

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:08:32 No.34838080 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34838021 }}
Not necessarily. Adopting a kid is a huge act. Adding a pet into the mix now would not be that much of an impact compared to the Loli.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:09:32 No.34838093 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34838021 }}
Christ, don't get her an iPhone. Just get a shitty cellphone you can keep in touch with her when you two aren't together.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:09:32 No.34838095 Report <br>
I wish I had a loli ;_;
This thread has inspired me to go forth and be a useful human being so one day I too can be a white knight for little girls.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:09:32 No.34838103 Report <br>
/a/doption /a/niki,

Continue being a bro. 

Sincerely,
the internet

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:09:32 No.34838110 Report <br>
You are going to raise this human being.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:10:32 No.34838131 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34838295,5</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34836984 }}
OP, you should get her a diary (with a lock on it.) It's very private and she has a lot of stuff she's going to be working out, and she'll need a place that she can vent and be herself, seeing as she lost the people closest to her and isn't quite ready to open up to you yet.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:11:32 No.34838151 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837545 }}
Unless it's a betta fish or something ridiculously simple, don't even think about a pet.
That shit is far too time-consuming and complicated for this stage in your burgeoning familial relationship.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:11:32 No.34838153 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34838173</small><br>
Seems too moe and emotionally dependent to be a 12 year old, unless they led a really sheltered life.

If it's real, watch new episodes of Heartcatch Precure together with her.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:11:32 No.34838173 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34838201</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34838153 }}
{{Greentext|>Seems too moe and emotionally dependent to be a 12 year old }}

Her parents are dead.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:11:32 No.34838180 Report <br>
Go the iPhone or Andriod. Fuck the angry basement dwellers, it's for a 12 year old girl not for them.

 

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:12:32 No.34838186 Report <br>
I salute you OP

Good Man.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:12:32 No.34838195 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837929 }}
You'd be surprised just how many of us have younger sisters, dipshit.

My youngest sister is around that age, and they definitely have the whole "trying to like what you like to impress you" deal going, which is why she was doing the clothes thing. 

Just a bit too young for a cell phone, best not to even think about that for now.

And yeah, the pet idea isn't exactly ideal for the time being. Give her time to adjust to the new home, the new neighbors and the overall new surroundings, then maybe you can reconsider it.

Doing a great thing, dude.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:12:32 No.34838199 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837932 }}
A lot of things make little girls happy.
Not all of them would be good for this particular little girl right now.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:12:32 No.34838201 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34838265 >>34838273 >>34838295</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34838173 }}
{{Greentext|>Her parents are dead }}
Way to be subtle anon

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:13:32 No.34838220 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34838020 }}
You again, bitch? He said right there in his post, he's missing a day but she's dead tired and so is he, so he'll write more later.

 

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:13:32 No.34838224 Report <br>
1. Read Yotsuba<br>
2. ??????<br>
3. PROFIT!<br>

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:14:32 No.34838246 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34838276</small><br>
This thread just goes to show how gullible /a/ has become.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:14:32 No.34838249 Report <br>
Hey OP did you ever fap to loli?
Are you going to stop now?

'''!!0oHp5yn8MOY''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:14:32 No.34838261 Report <br>
<small>Quoted By: >>34838291</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837841 }}
Actually, we did that today. She picked an IPhone, I picked a DROID - didn't have a cellphone previously. - I was asking her about her friends from where she used to live, turns out she had A LOT of them. Asked if she wanted to call them and she did, so I figured I'd get her her own phone so she could call whenever she wanted and I'd get one so she could reach me if she ever needed too (and because I wanted a new toy too.)

{{Greentext|>>34837863 }}
You may have a point... She seems to have gotten a lot better really fast - I'm still thinking that's probably going to come crashing down at some point. I doubt she's dealt with all she has to deal with yet... I've not been bringing anything around the subject up unless she initiates the conversation... but she's still shying away from talking to me about anything too personal so I don't know that she would even if it was really bothering her. Really not sure how to approach that to be honest...

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:14:32 No.34838265 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34838201 }}
Nice and tenderized.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:15:43 No.34838273 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34838201 }}
I'd just like to point out that anon is about as subtle as mountain falling on an old lady who has AIDS

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:15:43 No.34838274 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34837929 }}
Uhh, look asshole, Ive been working with kids for the past 17 years, have 2 kids, and a 13 y o grandkid . I know what is good with kids

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:15:43 No.34838276 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34838246 }}
{{Greentext|>has become }}
Bitch, you don't know what you're talking about.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:15:14 No.34838286 Report <br>
social services will be monitoring your shit now

you should probably stop coming here and microwave any hard drives you have that contain folders named 'loli'

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:15:28 No.34838291 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34838261 }}
{{Greentext|>Actually, we did that today. She picked an IPhone, I picked a DROID - didn't have a cellphone previously. - I was asking her about her friends from where she used to live, turns out she had A LOT of them. Asked if she wanted to call them and she did, so I figured I'd get her her own phone so she could call whenever she wanted and I'd get one so she could reach me if she ever needed too (and because I wanted a new toy too.) }}
Where on Earth do you get all this money?

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:15:28 No.34838295 Report <br>
{{Greentext|>>34838201 }}

They've hit the bucket, shuffled off their mortal coil, run down the curtain and joined the bleedin' choir invisible

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But there was no 4th thread. After that last post, mods deleted the thread on the grounds of  /a/ not  being your personal blog, and Aniki was never heard from again. There is no known continuation of his story. In the Archives, many anons expressed their dissatisfaction with this decision:

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'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:18:41 No.34838295,1  Report Delete
Oh come now, this didn't need to be deleted at all.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:21:04 No.34838295,2  Report Delete
They are harsh aren`t they?

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:21:46 No.34838295,3  Report Delete
MOOOOOOOOOODS.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:25:36 No.34838295,4  Report Delete
Fuck you 

why do I still go to this damn site

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:26:38 No.34838295,5  Report Delete
{{Greentext|>>34838131 }}
If you're still here OP, this is a good idea. She needs to be able to express her feeling properly. Of course, that doesn't mean you should just tell her to write everything down and stop talking to her, you need to communicate and connect with her properly as well.
Also, fuck the mods.

Summermods '''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:30:32 No.34838295,6  Report Delete
wtf man

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 02:32:05 No.34838295,7  Report Delete
worst mods ever

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 03:14:38 No.34838295,8  Report Delete
summer /a/ affects the mods too, who knew. fucking fags.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 05:17:26 No.34838295,9  Report Delete
Did the mods delete the thread? Such dicks. Fuck.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 15 May 2010 22:17:48 No.34838295,10  Report Delete
what cockhead mod deleted this?

'''Anonymous''' Sun 16 May 2010 13:24:52 No.34838295,11  Report Delete
Fuck you mods

'''Anonymous''' Sun 16 May 2010 22:26:57 No.34838295,12  Report Delete
Mods can go climb a wall of fucking dicks.

Knowing them they probably permabanned /a/niki too, fucking faggots.

'''Anonymous''' Tue 25 May 2010 01:58:08 No.34838295,13  Report Delete
Fuuuuuuuck yoooou mooooooods

'''Anonymous''' Tue 25 May 2010 02:49:40 No.34838295,14  Report Delete
<small>Quoted By: >>34838295,16</small><br>
{{Greentext|>>34837421 }}
Am I the only one who gets touched by the fact that every anon always seems to want the best for their family, and not have them become like anon?

'''Anonymous''' Tue 25 May 2010 03:15:47 No.34838295,15  Report Delete
FUCKING MODS

GOD DAMN

'''Anonymous''' Tue 25 May 2010 03:20:24 No.34838295,16  Report Delete
{{Greentext|>>34838295,14 }}
Anon is deep down a kind soul, who has yet to shine. Rather like a chrysalis.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 29 May 2010 22:53:33 No.34838295,17  Report Delete
<small>Quoted By: >>34838295,18</small><br>
How the fuck can he pay for all of this. I want his job.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 29 May 2010 22:54:40 No.34838295,18  Report Delete
{{Greentext|>>34838295,17 }}

I suppose when all you do is scope the internet all day and have a full time job, you have a lot of excess money on your hands.

'''Anonymous''' Sat 29 May 2010 23:21:49 No.34838295,19  Report Delete
FUCK YOU, THIS IS FAKE

'''Anonymous''' Tue 01 Jun 2010 11:21:54 No.34838295,20  Report Delete
GODDAMMIT MODS

'''Anonymous''' Mon 26 Jul 2010 05:33:16 No.34838295,21  Report Delete
Bump

'''Hina Fan''' Thu 16 Sep 2010 15:13:14 No.34838295,22  Report Delete
OP! keep writing!

'''Anonymous''' Sun 26 Sep 2010 03:14:24 No.34838295,23  Report Delete
Hmmmm.... it's too bad we haven't heard more from /a/niki.

'''（‏‏‎‎　´_‎‎ゝ‏‏‎‎`‎‎) 1 <3 annimeh''' Sun 26 Sep 2010 07:10:49 No.34838295,24  Report Delete
<small>Quoted By: >>34838295,25</small><br>
Listen to yourselves. This blog shit deserved to get banned. You guys are fucking faggots. You are cancerous.

'''Anonymous''' Tue 28 Sep 2010 03:34:34 No.34838295,25  Report Delete
{{Greentext|>>34838295,24 }}
No （‏‏‎‎　´_‎‎ゝ‏‏‎‎`‎‎) 1 <3 annimeh you are the cancer, and then （‏‏‎‎　´_‎‎ゝ‏‏‎‎`‎‎) 1 <3 annimeh is a mutated cell.

'''Anonymous''' Tue 15 Mar 2011 01:18:18 No.34838295,26  Report Delete
I wonder what happened to him...


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